As you know, connecting with people is my thing and I prefer to do it in the most casual manner possible. And, now that Spring is here and it is the season where nature basically says “Let’s Party,” it’s time to connect with people. Sure, the COVID-19 issue put a damper on things and yeah, that sounded a bit cheesy, but bear with me. The weather has finally getting nicer and considerably better.
People are coming out of their proverbial winter cocoons, shedding bulky sweaters for more casual, light wear. That also means there is a lot of potential for meeting with new people. Which is why you need to have a few “shoe-ins” pick up lines in your back pocket.
A lot has changed from the good old days when you would walk up to a girl in a bar and present your opening line. But not that much, actually. Some things have changed though, as of today, people usually meet on one of the many online dating apps.
If you are one of them, then there are some things to be aware of. You will need to use a good opening line that will not get you ghosted or turned down is still here. This is actually much more important today; the standards have been rising for a long time, so a simple opening phrase will just not cut it.
I’ve thought about this for a long time and tried and tested many opening lines. I’ve found that being fresh and interesting is the best course of action, as these will allow you a better chance of making a connection with your potential match. Which is why my advice today will help you, no doubt about it.
Pick Up Lines That 100% Work Casually Today
I’ve taken a scientific approach to this and comprised a scenario where you can apply each one. A note: always try to infuse a subtle question in your opener, so she will be inclined to answer.
Here are six opening pick up lines that are so much better than the basic openers:
You are scrolling through a girl’s pics and you quickly notice some of her photos were taken when browsing around a flea market or sifting through garage sales.
So instead of simply commending a girl’s photos with a generic “I like your photos” and risk sounding like a stalker, try something in the likes of:
“I really like your style. Maybe we could visit a flea market together and you can educate me on how to spot great finds that would work in my place.”
You are commending her and implying that you want her to see your place and advise you on home decor and style. Sounds corny AF, I know but play the card and see what happens.
Girls today seem to not like a direct question that could potentially ruin their evening and make them ghost or discard you completely.
So, next time, instead of asking a direct question in the likes of “What are you doing tonight?” sounding a bit forceful, you should go the long way around and ask the following:
“I would like to skip the chitchat and possibly meet you IRL. I like your profile and you are probably engaged in a fun activity tonight. Can you please let me know when it works for you so we can do fun things together?”
Meeting IRL for the first time can be scary for some, especially if it is forced. So, give a compliment or two. See how she responds and let her decide on the time and place for your initial meetup.
You have seen a smoking hot girl you like on online and you’ve noticed something about her work/job that has caught your eye.
So, if you really like to know this girl better, then I advise you to skip the “You really work for ______?” and go for a more sly approach, something like this:
“You look great and work for a great cause. That is amazing. What is it like working with _____?” or “Great looks and a charitable heart. Do you like working for ______?”
Adding compliments can be a good way to break the ice, for both of you. And prompting her to answer gives you the opener to ask more about her.
You and she both swiped right and you’ve probably dove into her profile with a magnifying glass ten times over.
So to leave a good impression and significantly improve your chances of scoring a real date with this girl, you should think smart questions that will lead her to respond.
Instead of opening with “Hello beautiful”, you can go for a more inventive approach and ask something like this that will showcase your mutual things and cover the first date conundrum:
“You talk about rock music on your profile. I love rock music. What is your favorite band? Mine is ____, and they have a concert here next week. Maybe we can go together?”
Ask this only if you are certain about the concert. Otherwise, you can ask her to meet you in a club where a cover band plays her favorite music.
Seeing a girl and talking to her are two different things. Many guys try for the opening with a joke thing.
While it works for some, the majority of guys will strike out due to a poorly presented joke. I’ve struck out a bunch over the years.
Next time when you are thinking of messaging a girl and using a joke to kick things off, try the honest approach or something like this:
Tell her, “I’m not that funny. I wish I had skills like that. I’d just be telling you a really bad joke to make you run. Instead, “Hi,” I’d love to get to know you better!
The girl you like has a complete bio on her profile. She talks about reading dystopian novels, but nothing specific.
So, to learn more about her and show your interest in her, instead of a simple “Hey, what’s up?” question, you should ask a tension-relieving question in the likes of:
“If the world is coming to an end, what would your last day on Earth be like?”
This way you show her that you appreciate her taste in books and you learn quality info about potential dates in the future.
Conclusion: Send It…A Lot Of Times
Look, you can probably try the plain old “Hi, I’m Joey Bag of Donuts looking to smash, wanna join me?” Sometimes it works, most of the time it doesn’t. The bottom line here is that if you want to really increase your chances of closing the deal, then you need to up your sales calls if you know what I mean. Get to work homie!